Choosing your life partner — the person you want to spend the rest of your days with — is one of the most important decisions you’ll make in your life.
Living most of your life with the person you love can be a joyous, mutually-fulfilling experience, but finding and choosing the right person can be a monumental task.
Luckily, it’s something that most people go through, so you’re not alone people who have never been married and never want to be married amount to only 5% of the total population.
By having a realistic idea of the kind of person that is right for you, making a strong effort to find this person, and committing to your relationship, you too can share the rest of your life with someone you love.
When choosing your life partner, remember that this is the most important decision of your lifetime.
The marriage relationship offers 90% of all your support, happiness and fulfillment so choose it wisely.
Consider qualities such as affection, sense of humor, intelligence, integrity, maturity, temperament, compatibility and that indescribable characteristic of chemistry.
If these are present, your relationship stands an excellent chance of great success.
Move slowly and let no one press you into an uncomfortable decision.
Keep well-informed about current events, the latest books and popular trends.
Many peak performers read five to six papers a day.
You don’t have to read every story of every paper.
Know what to focus on, what to pass by and what to clip out and read at another time
(many successful people scan scores of magazines and papers, clipping out articles of interest; these articles go into a file folder which can be read in your down time).
Knowledge is power.
Whether you are an entrepreneur, a corporate leader or someone leading a family,
you can profoundly change your life and the lives of those around you with a single idea.
Just ask Gates, Edison and Bell.
Regularly send handwritten notes to your business clients and your other relations to
strengthen the bond.
Develop a system which reminds you to send something valuable to this network
at least once every four months.
Send them postcards when you are away on vacation.
If you have to buy a few hundred postcards and spend an hour writing, don’t worry.
This is an exceptionally good investment of your time.
Another idea is to send a recent article of interest to your contacts with a handwritten
note saying that you thought this would interest them and that you continue to value their frindship.
Relationship building should always be a central focus
whether you are a CEO, a student, a salesperson or a parent.
Recognize and cultivate the power of autosuggestion.
It works and is an essential tool in maintaining peak performance.
We are all performers in one way or another and it is particularly valuable to use such techniques of athletes and public figures for our own enhancement.
If you want to become more enthusiastic, repeat “I am more enthusiastic today and am improving this trait daily”.
Repeat it over and over.
Purchase a legal notepad and write out this mantra 500 times.
Do it for three weeks with regular practice and feel that this quality is developing.
Very soon it will come.
This is a strategy that Indian sages have employed for thousands of years to aid their
spiritual and mental development.
Do not be discouraged if the results are not immediate, they will certainly develop.
The spoken word is a powerful influencer of the mind.
Use the rubber band method to condition your mind to focus solely on the
most positive elements in your life. Place a rubber band around your wrist.
Each time a negative, energy sapping thought enters your mind, snap the
rubber band. Thought the power of conditioning, your mind will associate pain
with negative thinking and you will soon possess a strongly positive mindset.
That’s the way you can cheat your mind with negative thinking with positive thinking.